Just another H4 spouse

Life was so stressful then. The 'Salary credited' text didn't bring even a small smile in the corner of my lip. The longing for weekends seems to be the-wait-forever. The fear of Monday morning ruined the Sunday evenings. Family went virtual and work became real. Job gave the money but no meaning.

Then came that day. A fine Saturday morning when I was walking out of the railway station to go to my in-law's home to meet my toddler son and enjoy weekend with him. It was that morning, when I got an unusual call from my hubby who was in US. Yeah, I name it "unusual", because it was in that call where we made the decision of the life-time. "Let the wait be over. Do quit your job and come to US with our son". It gave me infinite mixed feelings than my hubby's can-you-marry-me?

With a typical Indian middle-class family, two incomes is one of the "MUST"s to run family with our breaths-not-hold. But if it is worth missing the family, was the question which we were unable to answer for a long time and my hubby finally arrived with an answer strongly.

Just after a month of that call, I was in US with my 3 year old and no job. No more work stress, no more virtual family, full time home-maker, who wants more? 

Subscribed for Netflix. "FRIENDS" episodes were playing in marathon. All Bobby Flay's shows were finished watching. Cursed Netflix for not posting new episodes of Food Network shows. Finished wondering about American homes in HGTV shows. The always-called slow reader became a book worm and completed reading all fictional books and the online order of books were kept on delivering to the house.

But, then came the day when the other side looked greener. With increasing expenses,the no-income-me started feeling idle. You know what the H4 spouses will do within few days they reach US, becoming FAT. All because of bored-eating. I was not an exception. 

And again I became stressed. Being fat, hair loss, idle, blah,blah,blah. I started adding more "blah"s to the i'm-stressed-because-of-this-list, until I came across a quote while doing a good-for-nothing-browsing.

"A YEAR FROM NOW, YOU WILL WISH YOU HAD STARTED TODAY"

It felt as if someone turned on the light above my head. How true the quote is!! What if I feel that I should have started today, after a year? That night didn't go peacefully. The next morning was born with bright light not just outside but in my thoughts too. It's not about being fat, having hair loss, having no income which stressed me, its the lifestyle. I promised to lead a happy,healthy lifestyle and removing all blahs from my i'm-stressed-because-of-this-list.

Dear H4 spouses, I'm one of you. Make this H4 period, not just to relax and getting stressed. Take this period to practice a happy, healthy lifestyle and spreading the vibes to your family and friends. At least if not for others, let it be for you. Join heart and hands with yourself and start a journey towards happy-healthy-you.

I will share my experiences, my trials, my errors in the upcoming posts. Please post your comments by taking your hands out of that "PRINGLES" box. :)